When it comes to your teenager, it is important to remember that they are going through a very interesting time in their life.
They can become depressed, moody and might not want to get involved in a lot of activities.
A lot of this could be due to the hormones that are being introduced to their bodies as well as social changes. For example young men are interested in video games and sports, while young women are interested in shopping for clothes or trying out sex toys for the first time.
Even though you might think that they want nothing to do with you, it is vital to spend as much time with them as possible and not allow this new behavior to become something they run to in rough times.
When you are trying to motivate a teenager a big help could be talking to them about dreams and goals they have for short term life, such as getting a good grade on their math test or maybe a long term success of getting into their favorite college.
By talking to them about the future, their future, without pushing your own thoughts or judgement into what they want to do, is a good way to connect with them on a more personal level and also giving them the freedom to dream.
The biggest problem with motivation is the lack of drive, in order to be passionate about something, even a task as small as doing the laundry, people have to have purpose and reason in order to travel through daily life.
Teaching your teen to create short and long term goals is a great way to keep them looking forward to the future and enhance their everyday life while they are striving to reach these bars that they have set for themselves.
Give them the space for self-expression.
Nobody wants to life someone else’s life, or try to fight for someone else’s goals.
It is easy to push your hopes and dreams onto your teenager, but it is extremely vital to their future that you allow their decisions to be solely theirs.
Do not encourage giving up or stopping in the middle of reaching a goal as an option.
It is important to teach your teenager that the choice is not you either succeed or you fail, because failing is not the opposite of being successful.
Failure is part of succeeding.
It is a good idea to surround them with successful people, who are maybe in a sport that they wish to be really good at or in a job field that they want to make their future career.
Surrounding yourself with people who are already where or how you want to be is the fastest proven method to enhance yourself.
There is no time limit on personal growth, productivity is something that can be found within, but only when your teenager feels enough personal drive to motivate themselves to do and be better.
This is not a simple process, it takes a lot of caring and sometimes even a firm hand when they feel like giving up, but it is nothing that you cannot handle, and do not worry, they will succeed.