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— December, 2015
Read the introduction below:
“When I was a kid, my teachers constantly told my parents that I wasn’t living up to my potential. I had no idea what this “potential” thing was but I tried to live up to it any way. I wanted nothing more than to please my parents.
And so it is with many ADHD kids: they want nothing more than to please their parents. They know what to do but they can’t make themselves do what their heart wants to do.
This happens in classrooms too. I remember going to school each morning and thinking, “Today I will be good.” “Today I won’t get into trouble.” And then, the next thing I knew, I was getting into trouble and I couldn’t trace back to what had caused the commotion in the first place. I couldn’t see the sequence of events that had led up to me sitting in the Principal’s office or in detention.
When I was in tenth grade, and a student at Los Angeles Hebrew High School, the new Assistant Principal, Rabbi Joel Gordon, became my Bible and Hebrew Literature teacher. He LOVED teaching (and he still does after 58 years). He was like a kid in a candy shop when he was teaching. He captured my interest and hooked my loyalty to him (not that he needed my loyalty but I confess I still have very fond memories of his classes). My point is (back on track, Margit) that he had unconditional belief in my abilities. He never treated any of us as less than brilliant and we responded with attention. When I was distracting, he knew how to pull me back to the subject. When I was subversive, he would give me books to read on the topic I was questioning.
There are others of you, out there, making a real difference in the lives of ADHD kids and their parents, but it’s time to start a revolution, and here’s where I stand:
Despite it’s name, Attention Deficit Disorder is neither a deficit nor a disorder. We don’t need a cure because the only suffering is in not being understood.
This is a difficult concept for parents and school personnel to grasp. It would seem that if your intentions are good, the outcome should be good as well, barring any unforeseen occurrence. This is where ADHD shines – in unforeseen occurrences. Everyone has triggers but people with ADHD (and often the co-occurring depression, anxiety and/or sensory processing issues) have many triggers. Just ask the parents of a child with ADHD. It could be darkness, as in: when the sun sets and it gets dark (yes, all that time), it might be an inexplicable aversion to popcorn or polyester (well, that one’s understandable, isn’t it? Ewww, polyester). It may be that people with certain names get the automatic freeze or that masking tape has an irritating sound.
With this is mind, the easiest way to work with or live with a person with ADHD (even if it’s yourself) is to have a great sense of humor, to be able to stay calm when confronted with a brilliant but defiant statement, or to laugh outright when you realize that your dog and your daughter look remarkably alike.
Assume the best about ADHD kids. They are treasure chests with a wealth of fascinating observations and insights wrapped into a burrito of irritation, fun, confusion, fear, and brilliance.
The parents I’ve worked with and talked to mostly feel that schools are indifferent or irritated by ADHD children. The teachers and school counselors (of which I was both) feel that parents are too protective and give ADHD kids too much leeway.
Both are true in my experience. And there are also those schools that are incredibly supportive and those parents that readily admit they share the teacher’s frustration. Instead of looking at each other as enemies, this book is designed to explain each side to the other. Everyone – parents, teachers, counselors, administrators, health office personnel, and the children themselves – can learn to look at ADHD in a new way and can learn to build multiple bridges in the joint effort to grow a well-educated and happy adult.”
Copyright 2014, 2015 Margit Crane. All Rights Reserved