What You Are Ignoring About ADHD is Going to Hurt You

by Margit Crane on August 31, 2014

 

What you are ignoring about ADHD is going to hurt you.
It’s going to hurt your family.
Sooner or later.
I guarantee it.

As pretty much everyone who has ever met me or spoken to me knows, I’m very upbeat about ADHD. I think kids with ADHD, particularly, kick some serious booty. They tend to be full of vibrant, passionate, creative, delightful, spirited energy. I think they’re hysterical. They can also be frustrated, confused, scared, and angry. Parents are not the cause of this; ADHD is. Or rather, what we don’t know about ADHD is what’s causing the less-than-charming behavior.

It is not ADHD that creates problems; it is that ADHD is misunderstood and, thus, the children are misunderstood too. Being misunderstood, day after day, would piss me off for sure. How about you?

As I’ve evolved as an ADHD coach, I’ve been reluctant to take on the title of “Activist.” People have called me their “guardian angel” and I’ve felt more like a guardian angel. I’ve been protective of the people who call. I give you my brain to use so that you parents can rock this thing called ADHD. I don’t force you into a coaching appointment. I don’t hard sell anyone.

What’s wrong with that, Margit?

I was doing you a disservice. I was being more like a friend, suggesting that you might, feasibly, possibly, maybe would want to coach after you thought about it for a bit (or a longer bit). I wanted to show you the upside of ADHD but I didn’t want to depress or discourage you by showing you what could easily happen if you didn’t make a timely decision, if you just kept doing the same thing you were already doing, or you read another book, or you just sat and waited for this “phase” to pass.

I’m the expert and I should have told you the truth about ADHD: that without coaching you won’t see many positive results long term. You may think that your job is over when your child turns 18 or 21 or 25. Technically it will end, but in your heart you’ll follow your child-adult through his or her struggles to graduate, or relationship break-ups, or job terminations and, in the extreme, substance abuse and addiction.

What I’ve learned from adults with ADHD

I’m an adult with ADHD but I was diagnosed 34 years ago, when I was 23. Plus I had so much luck with my diagnosis. I was prescribed medication and received what would now be considered coaching. I needed to have my brain retrained, as it were. I needed new responses to life and people. Plus, I was really good at school. I already had one M.A. by the time I was diagnosed. (Of course, I was accused of cheating on my exam because I was so different. Sigh).

But in the past several years I’ve had the opportunity to coach adults from ages 21 – 60 and I’ve learned that I have to coach them completely differently than I coach children and families, and NOT because their adults and children are children.

I am no longer a reluctant activist and here’s why:

It is crystal clear to me that it is not possible to read a bunch of books, hang out online with a bunch of parents, or attend free seminars or webinars and really address the ADHD challenges of your children. And I know this because of the adults I’ve been working with.

To be continued tomorrow…

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Do You Know About My ADHD Parenting Freebies?

by Margit Crane on August 14, 2014

 

Do you know about my ADHD Parenting freebies?

1. I’m on TwitterFacebook and Pinterest. I’m @GiftedWithADD. Stay up to date with extra tips and share info and questions with other parents.

2. 30-minute free phone consultation. Schedule here. We can talk about anger, misbehavior, study skills, what I do and how it works for your family, talking to teachers, and pretty much anything related to ADHD (except meds. it’s illegal for me to talk about meds, other than what I’ve witnessed myself as an observer) 

3. If you haven’t gotten your copy of “Revolutionize Your ADHD Parenting in One Week,” grab a copy at this link. Great info about strategies for parenting angry kids, spacey kids, defiant kids, wonderful kids. From grade school t0 grad school!

xoxoxo,

Margit!

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Blog Tour for Special Needs, Homeschooling, and ADHD Parenting

August 13, 2014

Five influential mom bloggers have banded together to bring you freebies, friendship, encouragement and a community focusing on both homeschooling and special needs parenting.

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When Your ADHD Brain is Running on Empty

July 29, 2014

Seattle’s ADHD Coach, Margit Crane, share’s a few tricks to power up the ADHD brain when it seems like an impossibility.

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No is the ADHD Yes

July 28, 2014

For many people with ADHD, another YES means crowding our brains and our schedules with yet another event or activity that needs to be analyzed, understood and assimilated into a storehouse filled with exciting events and activities. For every YES, there is the pain of saying NO to something else and not knowing which NO to choose

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Keep Calm and Take a Time Out

July 27, 2014

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The Perfect ADHD Bumper Stickers

July 25, 2014

Tweet Pin It   What’s your favorite quote?? Scroll down and add your favorite quote to the comments section!

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The Most Important Person in My ADHD Life

July 25, 2014

Tweet Pin It   Everybody can point to a few people who have influenced them in wonderful ways. And it’s hard to argue that our families are not the most important people in our lives. But as far as the development of my ADHD – the development of the gift – I have 3 people [...]

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Rock n Roll Blogging With ADHD Family Strategist, Margit Crane

July 24, 2014

Tweet Pin It   Many of you know that, when I blog, I listen to Rock n Roll. The beat makes me work faster and, thanks to ADHD, I can blog and sing at the same time, or at least hum depending on what I’m writing. Some people asked what I listen to and, honestly, [...]

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Finding Your Voice as a Person With ADHD

July 23, 2014

As people with ADHD, we are accustomed to being told that we need to change something. But how do we do that? Meds can help, as can alternative modalities, but only ADHD Coaching can give us the support and training we need to become the people we yearn to be.

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